Why do bpds lie

I swear though, ive begun to actually experience brief flashes of what I would explain as grey thinking. Integrated thoughts which are neither all good or all bad but a blend of both sides.

This gave me a lot of hope. Anyway, regarding being a two ear old. Our identity diffused when we were young. Once an identity diffuses, it cannot be brought back together. An assumption that we have built a real identity or are getting better is just a symptom of a diffused identity.

Usually in the form of a false self. Some bpd's are so good at the false self that they live "happy" healthy lives of constant activity. So back to the actual reality of empty loneliness. Hope you have vacation time and no other obligations I always end up quitting a job just because I cannot tolerate certain situation that it forces you into. I look at that as rape. And that's another reason borderline never get better. The constant bombardment from the stresses of daily life.

Feel that professionals expect those living with BPD to be manipulative and therefore constantly lie. In my experience it is the opposite and maybe too much honesty is expressed to the wrong people who then use it as a weapon! I once dated someone who I now believe could be borderline, and she did an incredible amount of lying. But it's as you said--her lying usually doesn't seem intentional, but is instead based on her perception of reality.

I still have a lot of trouble wrapping my head around the idea that she truly and honestly believed things were one way when they absolutely were another, but I read somewhere that people with BPD could lie as a means of protecting themselves from rejection or a survival technique, and it did seem that a good deal of the lying was some kind of defense mechanism to avoid any intense feelings of failure and self-loathing.

I'm not sure if this is also characteristic of BPD, but personal victimization was pretty consistent in virtually every conflict she had, whether it was with me or anyone else. I'm not a mental health professional, so this belief is just that--belief.

But reading this post gave me a good deal of closure. Thank you. I was given the bpd diagnosis and nobody belived me either.

I believe I lied to other people but I did believe my lie. I honestly thought that I was telling the truth. In retrospect I probably lied but not to manipulate but to communicate badly what is going on with me. However, I was serious when I said I wanted to die. I should have been hospitalized then but I wasn't. A person with BPD or NPD may lie to distort reality into something that fits with the emotions that they are feeling, rather than the facts.

A case study of one person showing signs of pathological lying found that their behavior patterns were similar to those that can occur with frontotemporal dementia. Frontotemporal dementia is a form of dementia that affects the frontal and temporal brain regions and causes changes in behavior and language. Pathological lies are compulsive and may start small.

The lies can gradually become more elaborate and dramatic, particularly if they are necessary to cover up for an earlier lie. They often become complicated by unnecessary amounts of detail. People who lie frequently are not necessarily pathological liars. The most distinguishing feature of a pathological lie is that it does not have a motive. Therefore, a person who frequently exaggerates stories to make themselves appear more interesting or consistently lies to cover up mistakes that they have made is unlikely to be pathologically lying.

These are clear motives that advance particular interests. Pathological lies are easy for others to verify, which can ultimately be harmful to the person who tells them. For example, the individual may make false accusations or grandiose claims about their past that are simple for others to check. Pathological lying is not a formal diagnosis, but a doctor or therapist may recognize the behavior as a sign of another underlying condition, such as a personality disorder or factitious disorder.

These disorders include overlapping symptoms, including compulsive lying. People with these conditions also display other signs. It is possible for pathological lying to be an independent symptom, as some people engage in pathological lying without having any underlying medical condition. It can be challenging for a doctor to determine whether someone is engaging in pathological lying because there are no psychological or biological tests for it.

To diagnose most mental health conditions, a doctor will use a clinical interview. If the person is not honest about their lying, it could be necessary for the doctor to talk with family members or friends to help identify patterns of pathological lying. Coping with someone who lies pathologically can be challenging. Forming and maintaining a trusting relationship with this person can take time and patience. It is important to remember that the person may not intend to cause harm or benefit from these lies.

Being constantly worried, fearful, and suspicious is exhausting. Given lots of us are also healing from trauma at the same time makes that even harder. It just makes us more vulnerable and scared. We know that, too. For a lot of us, what helps us keep going is the hope that things will get better for us. Given access to it, treatments from medicines to talking therapies can have a real benefit.

Removing the stigma surrounding the diagnosis can help. It all starts with some understanding. And I hope you can understand. Tilly Grove is a freelance journalist in London, England. She usually writes about politics, social justice, and her BPD, and you can find her tweeting much the same femmenistfatale. Her website is tillygrove. Borderline personality disorder is often misunderstood.

Many of the symptoms of bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder overlap, particularly with type 1 bipolar disorder. Do you know the difference between borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder? Personality disorders are a group of mental health conditions that are characterized by inflexible and atypical patterns of thinking, feeling, and…. Kreger R. Hazelden, Neuropsychology of prefrontal cortex.

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